Mixed Messages

An encounter begins on JDate. Some chat and phone conversations lead to the ultimate “meet up” over coffee. 11am on a Tuesday and I venture to a nearby Starbucks to meet this mystery man. All I knew is that he was an attorney, a few years my junior. I was skeptical but hey, why not at least go meet him and see what he’s like? My adventure begins.

The entire meeting lasted less than 30 minutes. The moment I met him, I knew there was no real spark, but was willing to at least chat though my free cup of coffee. He seemed bored. Not attracted to me. He stared mostly out the window and I swear I think I caught him yawn at least once. He checked his iPhone for messages several times. He couldn’t have seemed any less interested. This didn’t really bother me because I wasn’t interested either. It was a free coffee.

We talked about boring things, like work. Not exactly the sort of stuff I like to talk about on a “date”. So at the end, we said our goodbyes with an obligatory “talk to you later”.

I walked away, towards the subway. I hadn’t been gone more than 5 minutes when I received a text message that said “So, should I come over?”. He actually sent me a text message asking me if he should come over. He spent 30 minutes expressing no interest in me personally and came across as totally not attracted, yet he wanted to know if I’d like for him to come over. For what? You get one guess.

I didn’t respond to the text. I continued toward the subway and descended to the platform. I entered the train towards home and my phone rang. It was him. Again. I didn’t answer. 3 minutes later, he called again. I answered.

Me: “Hello?”

Him: “Hi. Did you get my text? Should I come over?”

Me: “…”

Him: “Hello?”

Me: “Yes, I saw your text but I am on the train so I can’t talk. Can I call you back?

Him: “Sure.”

We hung up. I laughed with no intention of contacting this guy. I went home.

Over the course of the next 36 hours, I received over 20 text messages from him:

Mixed Messages

I finally took his call a day later and let him know that I didn’t appreciate the “gesture” he was making. He tried to negotiate with me, which I found hilarious. Needless to say, this “relationship” didn’t go anywhere and I never heard from him again after that.